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It's Not Perfect, But It's Okay


Can’t we go back a little bit to the past? To the years when we did a better job in appreciating ourselves? To the place where there was less jealousy in our bigger circle of friends? Days and years dragged our jaded feet away from our greatest moment, greatly unnoticed. Yet we’re standing on a thin line of uncertainty where most of us think everything is ‘supposed to be perfect’ within a ‘certain timeline’. So where did that person go? The person who could still feel amazing even if no one told her she was pretty? The person who could still feel great even if she had none of those designer bags? How does one become so fragile as they age?

Life is not supposed to be perfect. Getting your heart broken. Not having enough money to buy expensive things. Being single in your 30s. Not pursuing your dream job. Or even having no dream. They are all fine. Encountering ‘misfortunes’ does not mean you will never deserve great things. We will never really know what life has in store for all of us. The only thing within our grasp is what we can do to change the things we wish to never happen in our life. It’s all within our own choices. 

Should we stay broken when someone dumped us when we’re 25 while our friends are already having their seemingly-happily-ever-after marriage life at that age? Should we get stuck in a job that cannot pay us well to get us a house for our family? Is it really that bad to be single in our 30s even if other aspects in our life are just going well? Will we regret it if we never make any efforts to pursue our dream job while getting stuck in a boring job life? Is it really that bad to have no dream like anyone else?

It’s your own choice, should you change or regret it later. Many people are afraid of changes since they are faced with a number of uncertainties. But, even tomorrow is uncertain for all of us, whether we will be living or dying. No one knows. When you are going through a major shift in your life, for instance being in a job transition, the possibility is 50:50 whether you will fail or succeed. It means the only key to get 100% successful result lies within your own hands. Even so, some people still prefer regretting over ‘trying’. Although it’s not like it’s a sin to want to stay in our comfortable zone when it’s our own choice. No one is obliged to live this life ‘as perfectly as others’. We can just be ourselves and still enjoy the life we’re living. Yes, struggles do exist. Yet, when we think we’re struggling by ourselves, someone out there is having a hard time at the same time as you are. It’s okay. We are in this together.
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